Three generations. One very opinionated family.

8.1Decide what you actually wantA clear desire is often quieter than the argument built around whether it is permitted.9 min

8.2Notice the rule underneath the problemProblems often arrive carrying an unstated rule.9 min

8.3Ask whether the rule is necessaryNot every inherited rule is necessary simply because it is familiar.9 min

8.4Stop turning circumstances into authorityAuthority is added when a condition is allowed to dictate every possible interpretation.9 min

8.5Choose the story you want to return toThe chosen story is the position you intend to return to, not a sentence you must police every second.9 min

8.6Let techniques support the decisionOnce the decision is clear, methods can support familiarity rather than manufacture permission.9 min

8.7What to do when your mind arguesAn arguing mind does not automatically cancel a considered decision.9 min

8.8Closing essay: the question Grandma always comes back toAfter all the terminology, Grandma returns to authorship.9 min

The Family Method